You can choose to have a great day or a bad day. It is your will to choose.
Yes, things may come against you, challenge you, upset you and royally piss you off but the choice still lies with you. It is said, ‘it is not what happens to you, it is your response to what happens to you’ While this is true; I want to add that it is both what happens to you and it is your response to what happens to you.
If you stumped your toe, your response would be different than if someone walked up to you and punched you in the face!
The first scenario was all on you. No one else was involved with you stumping your toe. There is no blame except you’d probably call yourself an idiot or yell other obscenities. Your first reaction would be to hold it until the first level of pain passes, then look at it to see if you are bleeding and care for it. But the latter scenario is different. Whether you did something to provoke it is of no relevance. The fact is someone put their hands on you and harmed you. Your first reaction is to fight back and protect yourself.
These are two different scenarios but both have ‘happened to you’ yet you would respond differently to each scenario. I submit to you that after your reaction to what happens to you is when it evens out. What I mean is it is at that point that you can make a choice with a clear head. Your emotions are not as charged up. Emotions make things cloudy and you can not respond when you are ‘in your emotions’ because you are not thinking clearly. Get out of the emotion, first and then proceed to respond. You will be more effective.
How do you deal with the stuff that happens to you? Sometimes, you can control what happens to you. Sometimes, you are the instigator for the drama you experience (Be honest!); Sometimes, you push the envelope a little too far or you engage in something that you were already warned not to do so there are consequences for our behavior, nevertheless, here is a three-point strategy for how to deal with the stuff that happens to you.
The Three-Point Strategy
1. Acknowledge. You must accept what has happened to you mentally and emotionally. There is nothing that can be done at this point. It happened so deal with it. Be honest with yourself about how it made you feel and its affects on you. Be ‘in’ your emotions at this point only.
2. Adjust. You must get out of your emotions about it. By now, you should have dealt with it. Now it is time to get a fresh perspective. Instead of asking ‘why me?’ look at your posture in the situation. Are you open to change, learn and grow from this experience? Adjust your attitude towards a positive direction and respond to the situation through a new and refreshing lens.
3. Action. You must take action. Glean all that you can from the experience by looking for ways to refine yourself, change up your attitude and those behaviors that are not serving you well. Set goals and objectives that will position you for success. Take action to solidify your resolves and press you forward.